You know it is bad when your RE calls you herself.
0.
Zip.
None.
That's how many of my 23 eggs fertilized.
Even more frustrating? 19 of my eggs and KG's sperm all looked perfect. They have no explanation.
I can't remember some of what she said because I was so stunned. What I do remember is that she said next time, we would do ICSI.
Utter despair.
Oh my gosh I am So sorry!
ReplyDeleteOMG... are they not trying to do ICSI on them now? I have heard of them trying ICSI the next day... after they haven't fertilized naturally.
ReplyDeleteBig hugs to you. So sorry this is happening. :(
I am so sorry. This is so frustrating after all the shots, pain, discomfort you had to endure. Okay I want to scream in frustration for you.
ReplyDeleteGood question though...did they do ICSI on them to begin with or natural? We had no choice due to the age of my eggs but to do ICSI.
OMG WHAT??? :( So sorry you're going through this... hope you get a chance to do something nice for yourselves.
ReplyDeleteSo so so s sorry....I can't imagine your hurt right now. Unimaginable.....go have a stiff drink! Xoxo
ReplyDeleteWow - that sucks and is horribly unfair. I thought it was standard for most clinics to do ICSI on at least some of the eggs?
ReplyDeleteI am so incredibly sorry for you. It hurts to go through everything you have only to hear this news at retrieval. I think it is great that you know you have wonderful eggs and sperm though - hoping that with some ICSI next time all of your awesome eggs will fertilize!
Such devasting news! I too thought that most clinics recommend doing ICSi just to make sure this doesn't happen. Soc incredibly sorry to hear this.
ReplyDeleteOh my gosh - I am so, so sorry to hear this. You will survive to fight again another day, but for now, take the time you need to recover. Be well.
ReplyDeleteWow, that's so terrible. I am really sorry.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry. What incredibly difficult news. A veteran myself in the IVF world, but that is truly so hard.
ReplyDeleteOMG I'm so sorry :( But don't let this discourage you. Keep fighting for your dream.
ReplyDeleteThis is just awful!! I am so sorry you have to go through this after all you have done to have this happen. Thinking of you
ReplyDeleteOh, no. I am SO, so sorry. I cannot believe you have gone through all of this to come out with zero. Just can't believe it. So upset for you. I'm thinking of you.
ReplyDeleteI am so, so sorry. This sucks.
ReplyDeleteThinking of you and sending you hugs!
Well it's a first I've ever heard of this. None? Did they do anything wrong? It's almost unbelievable.. My friend had the lab lose her good emby when she was on her way to the transfer. It was their fault and she got free IVF till they got her to the same point again. I'd question their process.
ReplyDeleteI'm very very sorry. We are here to pick you up off the floor and hold you up to give you strength. Strength in numbers..xx
I've been reading your blog for a little while now, but have been hiding (i.e. not commenting). I just wanted to let you know that your blog has been so helpful to me, and that I'm just so sorry for your struggle. It is terrible news, and I can only imagine what you are going through. I'm not sure there is much comfort to be found today, but I hope you find it whenever, wherever you can.
ReplyDeleteYour blog speaks to me on many levels and I've been reading along with you through this journey. I am in shock and so incredibly sorry to hear the news. My thoughts are with you.
ReplyDeleteThis is so shocking, there are just no words? I'm scratching my head like some of the other commenters wondering did they do something wrong? Why did they not do ICSI in the first place? Have they mentioned perhaps doing CGH on your embryos to determine the exact issue? I'm so sorry. I'll certainly be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers and hope that you get some answers.
ReplyDeleteOh my goodness. I am so sorry. HUGS!
ReplyDeleteOh my god. I am so so so sorry. I hate this. I take it there is nothing they can do? I have heard of some fertilizing later....I wish I had something good to say. :(
ReplyDeleteI am so incredibly sorry. You must be devastated. I'm so so so heartbroken, it's not fair at all. I wish I could give you a hug... hope you're getting some support right now. xoxo
ReplyDeleteOh God sweetie. I am SOOOO sorry. That is incredibly unbelievable. Why wouldn't they have called you as soon as they realized they weren't fertilizing and ICSI'ed them then and there?
ReplyDeleteI am shocked and so very sad. I can't believe it.
I wish I could say something...take care of yourself today and keep writing. We are here.
MissC
Oh. My lord. I am so incredibly sorry. That is unreal. A little peculiar. I , like the other girls commenting here am in disbelief. I really really hope you can pick up the pieces
ReplyDeleteof your broken heart and try again... because 23 is really great. Please keep us updated especially at the WTF aapt. This is a serious WTF!?!?!? Have faith in your body and your eggs. It does sound like an issue with the embryologist, not you. :( i wish i knew you irl so i could comfort you properly. And that would include much wine.
Oh my god, I am so so sorry. I can't imagine how you are feeling right now. I don't even know what to say. I am just so so sorry.
ReplyDeleteYou're kidding me, right?
ReplyDeleteThis seriously has me teary-eyed.
I thought my situation was shitty but yours totally blows.
I just want to hug you. :(
I'm in total shock. I cannot imagine the devastation. You know how much I love you and want this for you. My thoughts are with you, along with oodles of hugs. It just doesn't make any sense.
ReplyDeleteHeartbroken for you! I feels so unbelievable. Literally, unbelievable. So so sorry.
ReplyDeletehugs ... all i can say
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for your news. That must have been a heartbreaking conversation.
ReplyDeleteI have been trying to comment all day. I am so sorry for your news. Oh my heart is breaking for you. There is nothing I can say to help. But know we are all here for you. xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
ReplyDeleteThis totally blows. I am so sorry.
ReplyDeleteLike others have said: I have been trying to comment since you put up this post, and I have no idea what to say. I'm completely shocked, and I don't have a clue what you must be going through. But I DO know that you are an INCREDIBLY strong woman and you will find a way to channel all of the positive energy everyone is sending to you right now, pick yourself up, and charge forward. I KNOW that this will happen for you.
ReplyDeleteIn the meantime, I think you deserve to get TOTALLY schnockered in the near future. (Tonight, Friday, both...)
And we're all sending you virtual hugs. Try to hang in there.
P.S. In my brain, there are LOTS of expletives in the above post, but I filtered them. I am PISSED for you right now. This SUCKS!
DeleteOh hon... I am so, so sorry... I wish things had turned out differently for you. Big hugs and lots of love in getting through this.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to hear this. Why do they bring up what they could have done and save it for "next time"? If there's things they can do, why don't they do it? I'm so sorry.
ReplyDeleteJust wanted to say how sorry I am, that is truly devastating.
ReplyDeleteI didn't even know this was possible. :( I am so sorry and very much hope you can get some answers soon.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry! Hope that ICSI will bring amazing results next time! And that you find comfort and hope during this time.
ReplyDeleteI was totally and utterly heartbroken to read your post this morning. I am so dreadfully sorry that this has happened. I really hope that the clinic can give you some sort of explanation for this. My prayers are with you honey. xxx
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry for your pain! I was in the same situation a year ago, none of my eggs fertilized after IVF. But with ICSI it was a totally different story. I am still not pregnant, had an ectopic pregnancy a few months ago, but with some nice embryos in the freezer. So don't let this discourage you. ICSI can be the answer. Goodluck!
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